Stress is a normal emotional state. A small amount of stress before a test or sports match, for instance may even enhance performance, but too much stress is truly debilitating. It can make the sufferer freeze, unable to face a new challenge even if it is apparently as small as eating an unfamiliar food.
On the other hand the sufferer might become restless, unable to concentrate or to settle to anything. They might become irritable or lose their temper over trifles.
The client can begin to understand what causes their raised stress levels in counselling and learn ways of managing their stress and become happier human beings.
We can explore all these issuses in my peaceful counsulting room in Stratford upon Avon.
How will counselling help?
Research shows that those that lose their temper easily, often do not recognise the early signs that this is likely to happen. They can learn to recognise the warning signs which are manifested physically and how to manage their anger appropiately. Life events can make the sufferer more likely to have anger management problems.
One young client discribed this as the gas in him which ignited so easily. The understanding of the 'gas' was the beginning of his journey to a calmer place.
We can reach a calmer, more happy life situation in my peaceful consulting room in Stratford Upon Avon.
Whether they have medication or not they can be helped to control their impulses through cognitive therapy. This is important since otherwise the child will provoke many negative responses through their behaviour and will gradually learn to perceive the world as a hostile place. This will provoke a defensive and hostile attitude in the child.
Some people have ADD. They are not hyperactive but do have a difficulty focusing and may slip into a 'World of their own' at inopportune times. Therapy can help these children to learn to focus more. Unfortunately, because these children are normally quiet, the problem is often missed and the child can be written off as not very bright or a 'low achiever'.
Either way, I can help them in my peaceful consulting room in Stratford upon Avon.
Or I can arrange to come to the childs home, school or other locatation
Although people on the autisctic spectrum share some characteristics each person is an individual. As you would expect, no two people are the same. Sometimes they benefit from coaching in social skills or they may need other specific help. This may need a number of sessions. If this is the case, I am willing to reduce my fees to make it more affordable.
They will find a peaceful, safe place in my consulting room in Stratford upon Avon.
We might find ourselves laying an extra plate at the table or storing up things to tell the person we have lost. Later we might find we are getting more angry, losing our tempers more often.
This often leads to a quieter stage when we are often feeling sad and lacklustre, so we find it harder to motivate ourselves to do things. Following this stage, we start to adjust to our loss. We still feel it but we can live with it.
The process of grieving is much the same for children and adults except children may dip in and out of their grief. One minute they are playing happily, the next they are lost in grief. Sometimes, people need help getting through their grief.
They can have the help in my peaceful consulting room in Stratford upon Avon.
One 9 year old boy seemed overwhelmed with depression, unable to imagine a time when he felt better. During one session, I said that it might feel as though he was carrying a huge weight but it would gradually shrink until it was the size of a football. Later it would become the size of a tennis ball then shrink to the size of a golf ball and then eventually a ping pong ball when he would be able to put it into his pocket and get on with his life.
At a later session, he bounced into my room and said that it had shrunk to a golf ball but he could already put it in his pocket and do what he wanted. We can only imagine the burden the child had suffered. Counselling can work. The client can come to my tranquil consulting room in Stratford upon Avon.